The Grace to Change

My dear sister.

I am so sorry it’s been a rather long time. I want you to know that as the seasons change, my heart and time and passion changes, too. And right now, God has truly gifted me with stillness, silence, slowness.

I want to tell you this: For so long, I was addicted to busy. I was addicted to efficiency, to high-capacity, to achievement and the hustle and the go, go, go.

And now, I’m not.

It’s the most crazy and beautiful and true thing in the world, that God is always moving within our hearts, breaking chains and setting us free to be the women He always created us to be.

Now, I desire stillness. I desire the silence, the solitude. Now, I desire relationships, and connection. Now, I desire dinner at a table, or a one-on-one coffee date. Now, I desire slow days, with time, with space and my movements more like a melody than a hustle.

I think I may be the only one who was like that. It seems so often that people just have a natural, inherent desire for connection and relationship and slowness- but I didn’t. But maybe I’m not the only one.

Listen, my sister. I want you to know this:

Sin had hardened our hearts, enslaving us to ungodly traits and habits, making us rigid and broken and hot-headed and weak and evil people.

But God is always, always, always working to restore us wholly to the women that He created us to be.

Where we were once broken, He is making us whole.

Where we were once addicted, He is making us free.

Where we were once angry, He is giving us peace.

Where we were once ashamed, He is giving us confidence.

Where we were once proud, He is giving us humility.

The way we once lived our lives, is not how we will forever live. The way our hearts once functioned, is not how they will forever be fashioned.

Sister, when you come to know your sweet Jesus, it’s just the beginning.

It’s just the beginning.

He is so gracious and genuine, that He begins a work in our lives, from the inside out, from our heart, to our hands.

And that work is coming to life day, by day, by day, by day.

I absolutely do not recognize the girl I was four years ago before I gave my life to Christ.  And, I hardly recognize the girl who I was, in Christ, a year ago.

God has done so unbelievably, tangibly, beautifully much in my heart and it has changed what I do with my hands.

And sister, so has He in yours.

Listen, so often, there’s a lie ringing in my head that I can’t change. Because if I change, I would be a hypocrite, because that’s not who I really am. Because it’s impossible for me to change. Because I’ve been who I was for so dang long, and that’s who I’ll forever be. Because I’m chained to my sinful and selfish past.

Oh, do you know who Christ Jesus is?

My sister, and honestly I’m sweetly talking to my own self right now,

There is so much grace.

There is so much grace for you.

There is so much grace poured and lavished and drenched over your life.

You are moment by moment by moment being transformed. Transformed in to the likeness of Jesus. Restored to the woman that God, GOD created YOU to be.

Embrace it! Sister, embrace it!

This is the work of the mighty and merciful God, who has eyes like fire and a voice like roaring waters, and hands that are gentle enough to knit together a man out of dust and breathe soft enough to spark life in his dusty soul.

He is changing you. He is moving in you. He is so near and intentional and intimate in your life, oh, can you feel Him!

You are not, and never were, supposed to stay the same.

It’s a dang sharp lie from the devil if you feel chained to who you were.

There is grace for who you were, for you who are, and for who you will be.

You are ever changing into a woman of beauty, of honesty and integrity, of stillness and passion, of intimacy and trust, of fire and grace and grit and everything else godly.

Be you, my sister.

Be fearless in letting people see the work God is doing in you.

After all, it’s never been about you. It’s always, always, been for Him.

Let His grace over your life echo His glory.

Sister, when I sat down in this bar stool, at a coffee shop, drinking this “spooky” latte they made me with charcoal and orange and vanilla (don’t ask about the charcoal part- I just went with it), I didn’t really know what I was going to write. I just knew that I wanted to write, that I needed to. But now there’s almost tears welling up in my eyes and there’s a flame that is being fanned in my heart and I just have to tell you:

The work that God is doing in your heart and hands is so divinely beautiful and powerful and like a roaring fire but also like the waves kissing the rocks over, and over again. Please, my sister, don’t stomp that flame and don’t run from those waters. He is making you like Himself.

I hope, that you can feel the tenderness of power of grace and of change.

Don’t be fearful. Don’t hold back.

God has knit you together, specially, adoringly, with something like a hidden treasure or pearl inside, that only He in His grace can dig out.

Let Him.

With much, much love. And a peace over me, a deep peace, that allows growth, and change, and even rejoices with it. –Melissa

“Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.” 2 Corinthians 3:18


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26 replies to “The Grace to Change

  1. Melissa, I so missed your posts and this hit right at home. Thank you so much for this and for the reminder that I don’t have to be stuck with the old me; that God is transforming me. I missed you sister and I pray God continues to use you in such a mighty way to bring His people to the Kingdom.


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    1. Tiara,
      Hey girl!! Awh yes I am so sorry I’ve been writing slower.. a lot slower hahah! But I am so glad that you enjoyed this post… yes we are constantly moving from glory to glory.. all because of His grace! He loves you so much!!


  2. Hi Melissa!

    Thanks so much for this post. It definitely hit home for me, and brought much clarity to the season the Lord has me in, a season of healing and restoration. He’s bringing me back from the land of not enough, to the land of more than enough, the abundant life He has promised me and I cannot thank Him enough. But in the midst of it all, He is in the process of mending a broken heart that hasn’t been given time to heal in a long time.

    I thank you for your sweet words of encouragement. They have blessed me tremendously.

    God Bless you! ❤️

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    1. Tassie!
      YES girl!! I love that! A land of not enough, to a land of abundance! That’s who He is!! He meets us in our brokenness, but does NOT leave us that way! He is the God of HEALING and RESTORATION! His Kingdom is overflowing in hope and joy and abundance…. let Him move in you, sweet friend!! He shines in you! Much love!

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  3. “There is grace for who you were, for you who are, and for who you will be.”- So beautifully said Melissa, I’ve missed your poems. I’m glad that you are back, you certainly have a way with words. I have fell into that lie that I can’t change but thank goodness we serve a God who is there for us and loves us unconditionally.

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    1. AWH friend thank you!!! SO sorry that I’ve been writing a lot slower. I think that God is working graciously slow in me…. and I want my words to reflect His integrity and devotion. No empty words!! Much love my sister, yes He is sooooo gooooood!

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  4. Thank you for encouraging words that strike deeply into my heart today. This journey is so much less scary when He’s in charge! Focusing on His fierce tenderness today.

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  5. Melissa, God worked through you powerfully here. The words you wrote over your spooky latte were His words. It was really as if He was using your words to speak straight to me. So thank you for sharing and encouraging so many, dear sister.
    love to you.

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    1. Jillian,
      Ahhhhh I love love this. Yes, God knows you, and He loves you, and He is right here with you!! He will speak the words that your soul needs to hear, and lavish you in the love that only He can give!! Much love my sister!!!! ❤ Thank you!!


  6. As i was looking online the difference between a Christian woman and a Godly woman I came across your page you inspired me so much that I thank God for that it’s a process I’m asking God for guidance and in reading your page I’ve been inspired by so many different things and I asked God to continue blessing you thank you

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    1. Norma,
      YES I get you!! It’s all a process!! I pray that He would lead your heart gently and that His roots would grow deeply in the fertile soil of your heart. He loves you so much! Take heart and stay near to Him!


  7. It is a true testament to Christ’s continually laboring in us when we cease to recognize who we were and who we are- because that’s what He does: purges, molds, shapes… and if we have the courage not to leap off the Potter’s wheel… He will keep shaping!

    Thank you for your testimony and encouragement. I vastly appreciate it and your words are always timely in my life.

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    1. Hannah!
      YES!! The Potter! We are His clay. And as you said, He shapes and molds us little by little, every detail in His hands. Thank you for this. He loves us so much! Thank you for your sweet words. Much love to you, my friend!


  8. This email is dated October 29, 2017 (the one you wrote I mean). It was about changes, the ones we go through and the ones we make happen, I guess.

    Today is April 24, 2018 and I guess if I would have read it back in October it wouldn’t have meant the same to me than it just did.

    God does work in misterious ways. I don’t believe in coincidence but in godcidence.

    Thanks for your words, for sharing your thoughts and opening your heart out to us.

    May God bless you today and always!

    Carlotta Rodríguez Puerto Plata, Dominican Republic


  9. The verse 2 Corinthians 3:18 has been an anthem verse for me that last several months. So much power in realizing there is a greater fullness of His spirit and freedom being offered to us than we can even understand! It’s crazy to realize something that you posted so long ago could be so perfect for the season I’m walking now. Thank you for sharing!


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