A Cheap Love. A Cheap Identity.

My friends.

 

I’ve been realizing something in the past week.

Rather, my heart has been breaking in a new way this past week.

 

I have a really big heart for girls.

I see so many precious, precious gals seeking a love that is empty and dangerous.

I see so many precious girls seeking an identity that is fleeting and void.

And so, my heart breaks for girls before their hearts are even broken.

 

My friends..

Before I met Jesus, I thought that the love in this world was the only love. Before I met Jesus, I thought that this worldly love was good and true.

I thought that in love, you had to prove yourself. I thought that in love, you have to work and strive. I thought that in love, I had to measure up to their expectations. I thought that in love, I had to give more than I wanted to.

I thought love was vanity. I thought love made it okay to be impatient, to be angry, to be lazy. I thought love was temporary. I thought love was a feeling. I thought love was only for the moment, and could leave at the next.

 

My friends..

Before I met Jesus, I thought that the identity in this world was the only identity. Before I met Jesus, I thought that this worldly identity was good and true

I thought that for my identity, I had to prove myself. I thought that for my identity, I had to work and strive. I thought that for my identity, I had to measure up to everyone’s expectations, to give more than I wanted to.

I thought that identity was about vanity. I thought that identity was about making myself. I thought that identity made it okay to do anything, at whatever the cost. I thought that identity was all up to other people’s opinion.. it wasn’t my own.

 

Once the richest love found me…

Once the richest identity got ahold of me..

I see that the love and the identity of this world is so very cheap.

 

My heart breaks for the precious girls who are wrapped up in this cheap love and cheap identity.. and I love them. So rather than condemning these things, I simply want to draw them to the deep love and identity of their sweet Jesus.

This is what my heart cries out:

The love of this world is cheap.

The identity in this world is cheap.

There’s a love, that when you feel it, you instantly will drop all past loves.

There’s an identity, that when you grasp it, you will instantly let go of all past identities.

And I want every single girl to know of it. 

 

God has made love to be so pure. Love, really, is so sincere. It’s genuine. It’s real in word and deed. There is only peace in real love, knowing that what is said and done is without hidden intention. Everything is out in the open.

Love, really, is good. It makes you feel good about yourself.. it makes you feel beautiful and worthy and known. Love is well with the core of your heart. Love goes deep, deep down into your soul and whispers that you are so secure, that you are so safe, that you are so adored.

Love, really, has no expectations. Love has nothing that you have to measure up to, nothing that you have to strive for or work for. Love cherishes you right where you are at. Love has a way of sweeping up and whirling around your soul just because you are loved and worthy and known.

My dear sister, this is real love. This is the love that God has for me and you; this is the love that God intends for us to have for each other.

This is rich love.

Anything below this… is cheap.

 

God has identity to be so true, so deep, so innate. Identity, really, is something that goes so much deeper than your work. Identity, really, is something that is true at your very core. It’s something you were created in, something you were born with.

Real identity declares that you are worthy. Real identity declares that you are cherished.  Real identity declares that you are special enough to be pursued.

Your real identity sings sweetly that you are all of these things: worthy and cherished and special. Your real identity is immovable, unshakable, unchangeable. It’s something that will never change, never dim, and never disappear.

Your real identity also speaks status over you. It speaks role and position, in the sense that, in Christ, you are royalty. You are family. You are brilliant; you are creative; you are hardworking; you are everything that Christ is.

My dear sister, this is real identity. This is the identity that God has declared over you and me.

This is rich identity.

Anything below this… is cheap.

 

 

So naturally, when we feel rich love and naturally, when we grasp rich identity… we just crave this more than the old and cheap way.

It’s better. It’s sweeter. It’s purer. It’s richer. It’s God.

 

And then, we are given vision. We are able to see others falling for this cheap love and cheap identity.

And our hearts break for them to know real love, to know real identity.

 

My friend, please don’t ever look back to this old, cheap love and old, cheap identity.

Don’t question why you no longer do those things. Don’t question why you no longer crave those things.

Don’t look back; don’t fool your heart into thinking that’s real love.

My sweet sister, the richest of loves has found you. The richest of loves will surround you every day of your life and whisper sweet words to the deepest part of your soul.

Don’t look back; don’t fool your heart into thinking that’s real identity.

The richest identity has beheld you. The richest identity will cherish you until your heart deeply believes everything it has been created to be.

 

May your heart rejoice over the richest of loves and richest identity that has found you.

And may your heart break for those precious girls who have yet to know.

 

May we show them a love that is deeper, sweeter… richer than they have ever fathomed.

With much, much love. And a heart overflowing in richness. –Melissa

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6 thoughts on “A Cheap Love. A Cheap Identity.

  1. Hi,

    I follow your blog a lot! And I have recently moved to North Carolina. I was wondering if you knew anyone in Winston Salem. I am currently looking for a roommate. Also looking for a church! I’m not sure where your from or if you are familiar with NC.

    Best,
    Cassandra S.

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    1. Cassandra!
      I’m so glad that you enjoy the blog! I know a few people from North Carolina, but they aren’t looking for a place to live. I’m sorry my friend! I have never been there, so I don’t know a church either. Sorry for the lack of help! Prayers for a great roommate and the perfect church for you!
      Much love my friend!
      Melissa

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  2. I had a little bit of an epiphany when reading this. When I first met my husband I had gone through a divorce. But with him I felt loved, adored and remember just bursting with all that feeling. Why do I have such a hard time thinking that God doesn’t love me even more than that?

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    1. So glad you enjoy the post! Yes, I am so sure that Jesus is calling you back and pursuing your heart. Let me know if I can be praying for anything! Hope the other posts can help, too. Much love, my friend!

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