An Open Letter To The Young Christian Girl Who Just Wants The Next Season


I get it.

I know you aren’t content where you are.

Yes, I know you enjoy your friends, and hanging out with them, and eating ice cream late at night. Yes, I know that you are enjoying your school’s sports games, and freedom, and new adventures.

But yes, I also know that you are yearning for the next stage. The next step.

The stage where your friends- and maybe, you- are getting engaged. The stage of getting an apartment that you can decorate to meet your very style and an actual day job where you can dress business-casual. The stage when you can have dinner parties at your apartment and spontaneous weekend trips to Northern California for wine-tasting. (Once you’re 21, of course.)

I am, too.

I can’t wait for that.

But right now, I feel stuck. And uncomfortable.

I want to appreciate this season of life that I’m in. I want to appreciate this season of school games, and of part-time jobs, and of singleness, of study groups, and of sleeping in and late night adventures.

But right now, I just want the next stage. I would forsake this season for the next in a heartbeat.


But The Lord doesn’t waste anything. 

Which means, friends, that we are here, in this season, according the Lord’s good will.

We are here for a reason.

Have you read the story of Mary and Martha? Probably. Well, I have come to believe that this is a Mary-season.

You see, our sweet Jesus was in the living room of this girl, Martha’s house. Martha was busy in the kitchen preparing dinner. But in the meantime, her sister Mary was sitting at the feet of Jesus. Martha got mad. And frustrated. She told Jesus to tell Mary to go help her work. Our sweet Jesus responded,

“My dear Martha, you are so upset and worried over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”

I am SO Martha. I don’t want to admit it, but in this story, I am Martha.

I get so attached to the idea of doing. Of working. Of accomplishing. Of creating.

But right now, I think that Jesus wants me to sit patiently at His feet. I think that Jesus just wants me to enjoy His presence during this season. I think my sweet Jesus just wants me to sit with Him, listening to Him, marveling at Him.

I think the Lord is telling me that I don’t need to do and work and accomplish and create right now. I don’t need to be Martha. This is a Mary season: a season of waiting, of resting, of enjoying. 

Right now, I need to seek Him with all of my heart. And seek Him where I’m at now.

Because, my sweet friends, The Lord doesn’t waste anything.

Be still, and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10


With much, much love. -Melissa

12 replies to “An Open Letter To The Young Christian Girl Who Just Wants The Next Season

  1. This week I have struggle with being patient, negative and dealing with God’s timing. Even before this week I was confused about what was the next step in my life. It was frustrating because I felt like God has a purpose for me and I was doing nothing but wasting time. Now I have come to realize that my life will all work our in God’s timing. Your blog posts have helped me in one day and has given me answers to questions that I have been searching for most of my life so that you!!


    1. Anie,
      Wow! I am so encouraged by your message. I am so glad that God is using this blog in your life- go Jesus! Yes, everything will work out in God’s timing, and that is not always the same as our timing. But, His plans are SO much better and sweeter and more fruitful than ours could ever be- fix your heart on that! Seek Him, and everything else will fall effortlessly into place.
      Much, much love to you my friend!


      1. Yes ma’am! I am trying to follow my heart and I’m actually focusing on becoming the best version of myself in Gods eyes! I think you blog is going to be playing a big part in my journey this year! Keep doing you and much love you my Jesus loving sister!


  2. So so glad I found your blog! I am such a Martha too! While currently in a Mary season. I am exactly where God wants me to be right now and I just need to embrace this time of rest and waiting.


  3. I am writing this as tears fall down my face. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I am constantly like “I can’t wait till…” “Just one more year of this then i’ll be…” I need to be in the now I need to be still. Perfect post to read right before I start my second semester of junior college. (The place I haven’t been enjoying cause all I think about is how much longer till I get to transfer) THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.


    1. Isabella, wow! I am so thrilled that the Lord used this post to touch your heart! Remember, the Lord does not waste anything.. He is moving in this season that you’re in. Praying He would bring a strong peace to your heart and shower you in His love through it all. Much love to you, my sister!

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